TERMINOLOGY

Many of these words and terms are slang and may change or disappear with time. Swinging is a growing lifestyle, so new words and terms are likely to be developed. A number of the words and terms are used primarily in personal ads and letters in reply to personal ads. These are rarely used in conversation or at swinging parties. Some of these words do not necessary have anything to do with swinging, but we have included them in case you hear them.

AC/DC

Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.

ADULT

Euphemism for pornographic.

ALL CULTURES

Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)

ANAL

Anal intercourse; Greek; Greek Culture.

ANIMAL TRAINING

Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women; Bestiality

ARTS

Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures

B&D

Bondage and discipline (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)

BBW

Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive.

BESTIALITY

(see ANIMAL TRAINING)

BI

Bisexual: Versatile(see AC/DC)

BI-CURIOUS

A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.

BIZARRE

Unusual sexual desires

BONDAGE

A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."

CAN ENTERTAIN

Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.

CAN TRAVEL

Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.

CANING

A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.

CHEATING

Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.

CLEAN

Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases.

CLOSED DOOR

(see CLOSED SWINGING)

CLOSED SWINGING

Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms so that partners of a marriage or other intimate relationship do not visually observe each other's swinging. The rooms are almost ways in the same house/hotel.

CLOSET SWINGER

A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)

COUPLE

In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.

CPL

(see COUPLE)

CULTURE

Euphemism for Fetish, Arts.

ENGLISH CULTURE:

Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning

FRENCH CULTURE:

Oral-genital sexual activity

GREEK CULTURE:

Anal-penile intercourse

ROMAN CULTURE:

Sexual orgies

SWEDISH CULTURE:

Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another

CUNNILINGUS

Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)

DILDO

An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.

DIRECTOR

The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.

DISCIPLINE

A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.

DISCREET OR DISCRETION

Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.

DOCILE

Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).

DOMESTIC TRAINING

Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.

DOMINANT

A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.

ENTERTAIN

(see CAN ENTERTAIN)

EXHIBITIONIST

A person who is sexually stimulated by being seen or watched by others while showing sexual portions of the body or engaging in sexual acts.

F

Female

FELLATIO

Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.

FETISH

Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.

FLAGELLATION

Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.

FUN AND GAMES

Euphemism for sexual activity.

GAY

A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.

GBM

Gay Black Male

GENEROUS

Refers to money for sex.

GROUP ROOM

Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).

GROUP SEX

Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.

GWM

Gay White Male

HARD CORE

A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.

HARD SWINGING

(see HARD CORE)

HEAD

Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head"

HEDONIST

Someone who lives for pleasure.

HETEROSEXUAL

Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.

HOMOSEXUAL

Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)

HORNY

Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.

HUNG

Refers to a man with a large penis.

HWP

Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.

INDOOR SPORTS

Swinging activities in general.

INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP

Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.

IRL

In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat

ISO

In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female

LEATHER

A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing of leather garments.

LESBIAN

A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)

LTR

Long Term Relationship

MARITAL AIDS

Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.

MASOCHISM

Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.

MASTER/SLAVE

Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)

MATROOM

Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).

MEET FOR PLEASURE

Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.

MENAGE A' TROIS

Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. May involve an on-going emotional relationship of the participants. {see THREESOME, TRIAD)

MORESOMES

More than three people in a swinging interaction.

MBC

Married Black Couple

MBiC

Married Bisexual Couple

MWC

Married White Couple

NASCA

The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.

NEWCOMERS

New people in swinging; First-timers.

NONSMOKER

Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

OPEN DOOR

(see OPEN SWINGING)

OPEN SWINGING

A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room; (Western U S) swing party where participants socially mix and are free to swing as couples, in one-to-one pairings and group sex during the progress of the party.

ORAL-GENITAL

(see CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD)

ORGY

Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; group sex.

PARTY

Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.

PARTY CLOTHES

Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.

PARTY HOUSE (Western US)

A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.

PASSIVE

Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)

PHOTO

Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.

PHOTOGRAPHY

Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.

P/P

Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).

PRO

Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.

RECREATIONAL SWINGER

A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion with no desire for emotional attachment.

RESTRAINT

Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.

ROMAN

Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see CULTURE, ROMAN)

RUBBER

Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.

SADISM

Sexual gratification through inflicting physical or emotional abuse on others.

SAFE

Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy.

S.A.S.E.

Self-addressed stamped envelope.

SBF

Single Black Female

SBiF

Single Bisexual Female

SBM

Single Black Male

SGL

(see SINGLE)

S&M

Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).

SINGLE

A swinger without a partner, single or married.

SOCIAL

A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.

SOCIAL SWING CLUB

A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.

SOFT SWINGING

The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).

SRS

Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).

STD

Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970's to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.

STR or STR8

(see STRAIGHT)

STRAIGHT

Any person who is not interested in same sex sexual activity or A person who does not use drugs.

SWAPPING

Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.

SWF

Single White Female

SWING MAGAZINE

A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.

SWINGING

Social-sexual relational recreation among men and women. It is a couple oriented activity but single men and women sometimes are involved.

SWINGING LIFESTYLE

Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.

SWINGING MARRIAGE

Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.

SWM

Single White Male

SUBMISSIVE

(see PASSIVE)

THREESOME

Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. Not the same as a "menage a' trois" in that the latter may involve emotional involvement and a continuing relationship.

TICKET

A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.

TOYS

Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)

TRAVEL

(see CAN TRAVEL)

TRIAD

Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.

TRIOLISM

Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes". This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)

TUBAL LIGATION

Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.

UTOPIAN SWINGER

A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.

VASECTOMY

Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to make a man infertile.

VERSATILE

Bisexual. (see AC/DC)

VIBRATOR

Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.

VOLUPTUOUS

Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.

VOYEUR

A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.

List Courtesy of NASCA