R.S.V.P
Like any party, if you are invited, it is considered proper etiquette to reply as soon as you decide whether or not you will be attending. If it is a couples only club or party, it is not proper to show up stag.

Be Prepared
Always be prepared for a party or club. Bring anything you may need. A small gym bag full of things is appropriate. Items I recommend include toiletries, towels, condoms, and a change of clothes. You may also want to bring some "comfortable" clothing if you are not planning to wear any under your clothes.

Drugs and Alcohol
Drugs are not welcome at any swinging environment. In many clubs, you can bring your own alcohol, and they will write your name on your bottle and keep it for you. Do not expect a full service bar at a club, as most do not have liquor license and therefore can not serve alcohol. See the TIPS section for more information on alcohol consumption at parties.

Safe Sex
Safe Sex is the ONLY sex that should take place while swinging. Unless you are in a monogamous swinging relationship, you should be very careful. Condom use is expected by most swingers. If you are careful, you can keep the risk low, though Sexually Transmitted Diseases are always a possibility.

Bring Something
Never show up empty handed to a private party. Ask ahead if you are unsure of what to bring. A beverage or food item is most common. For a home, you may even consider candles or flowers.

Dress
Always dress nicely. Sexy but not slutty is appropriate for the women. Always shower first before getting dressed. Nothing turns off swingers more than unclean people.

Be neat
When you are done using an area, don't forget to clean up after yourself. Try to keep your clothes, shoes, and jewelry in one place. I recommend that you leave any expensive jewelry home.

Room use
Whether you are at a private party, or at a club, know the room rules. Doors are never to be locked, though some may be designated as "private", "semi-private", or "open". Just because you go in an open room does not mean that you have to join in. It also does not mean that just anyone can party with you. Remember, you can say no, even in an open room.

Discretion
So what happens if you see someone you know at a club or a party? Don't worry about it. Most likely they are not going to say anything. After all - YOU saw them too. If you do talk to them, don't ask "personal" questions that they might not want others to know.